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Did you shout at your child today?

Updated: Oct 21, 2022

Can I be honest? I’ve spent years working with children and keeping calm with other people’s children. I know all the tips to deal with their (and my own) behaviour and I STILL get triggered by the little humans I created myself. It’s human nature and we’ve all been there.


Here’s what to do…


REPAIR


HOW

Be accountable, apologise and tell them what you’ll differently.


⚡️‘I made a mistake today when I shouted at you. Mistakes are human and it’s okay to make them but next time I am going to take big deep breaths before responding.’


⚡️’I love being your Mummy and sometimes I feel tired and stressed. I get overwhelmed as I am still learning too. This isn’t your fault.’


⚡️’I wasn’t being very respectful when I shouted, I’m sorry. I was feeling angry, sometimes we are going to make each other angry but it doesn’t mean we don’t love each other.’


⚡️’Do you remember yesterday when we were in the car and I shouted? I am sorry I did that. I was feeling cross and frustrated and that’s okay, but it’s not okay to shout. I needed to take a break and calm down.’

It’s never too late to PAUSE, BREATHE and TRY AGAIN.

💬Encourage them to share their feelings but if they don’t, that’s fine. They might not be bothered at all or they may still be cross.


It’s still important to repair…

WHY

👉🏼Children learn through what they see.

👉🏼Negative feelings accumulate like snowballs.

👉🏼You deserve to release your own guilt.

👉🏼Your child needs to know they’re loved, they did nothing wrong.

👉🏼We are teaching them how to work through conflict.

👉🏼They’re learning that their actions affect another person.


Does this resonate with you? Comment below if so.





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